Sunday, October 21, 2012

007

He’s not James Bond but he does want to work for the FBI when he grows up.  I thought I would get off easy when for his birthday dinner he asked for eggs, sausage and bacon.  Then the sweet requests… Pumpkin pie and a tie dyed spy cake.  We did his spotlight for family night.  We talk about their birth story and then ask questions.  He got what is your pet peeve, something that really bugs you?  He stopped then said mom can you go in the other room?  I told him it was ok, he could answer.  His answer was when mom thinks she’s funny and she’s not.  Little did I know that night would only open the door.  We enjoyed pumpkin pie with special crust, I put his name in the crust and had sport balls around the edge.

 On his birthday we took in classroom treats mini doughnuts and of course lil’ Heath candy bars.  Heath loves his teacher Mr. McQueen.  He does a great job with him.  Heath is doing very well in school, his teacher says he comes into the classroom runs two laps sits in his seat and gets right to work. 
 Heath has also learned the invaluable skill of making fart noises with his armpits.  Heath is my WHY? child it is a blessing and a curse J The other day when I told him his pants were too short, he said it’s ok I’ll wear long socks.  I told him that wasn’t’ the point, He responded back with why?  Don’t we wear pants to cover our legs… mine are covered. I just shake my head, I don’t know what to do with this boy.  I send him off to school with pants too short and let him do his hair just the way he likes it (he thinks it is spiked).  Well he did have breakfast, brush his teeth and did his morning chore, I guess those are more important right?  I have to admit I’m slightly embarrassed when I pull up to pick him up and I see his now dry hair that looks like bed head, his short pants, long socks and crocs. He slightly resembles a homeless boy.  I am often tempted to put a sign on him that says “We encourage independence" or "I promise he is loved and cared for”.  I guess it will all come back around I’ll be embarrassed of him from 7 until the teenage years when it turns and he is embarrassed of me ;) I’m joking but back to his birthday.     
He wanted to celebrate his birthday on the actual day, which took some juggling with me in the middle of volleyball season but I made it work.  I let him have two friends over for dinner and cake.  Of course 7 year old boys ate all the food, played wii and room for cake! 
Spy cake was a bomb and with a tie dyed middle.  
Heath was very excited for both his real watch and a set of handcuffs. 
We have also been following the nieces and nephew blogs where Natalie makes cookies for them on their birthdays.  She did an AWESOME job, he was super excited too.  My favorites were the spy guys.    

After I took Cooper home, Heath gave me a 20 minute lecture on what I needed to do to be a good mom.
At first I was defensive, I mean who was he kidding I just had the craziest day all for him and did just what he wanted, it is never enough, all of those thoughts but I took it in.  When we got home I thanked him, like you do after a cop gives you a ticket, not sincere more habit because someone handed you something.  Our talk really hurt me but I did reflect in tears of course, because some points he made were too close to home.  I’m grateful he can express himself, describe emotions he feels, he is a pretty good communicator (when I just listen).  While I thought it was a little bit of middle child syndrome he did give me great insight.  I do know better what he needs to feel love, it isn’t easy but he is worth it.  The things you really work at turn out better in the end right?    

Tyler is just such a kid I remember his intensity and his parents have worked very hard, he has the biggest heart.  He gives us hope, he is going to be a great missionary.  His farewell was great too.  The music was amazing and the spirit was so strong.  It was a few days later that Heath brought me a hymn book and asked what is that wonderful wonderful song, I said I didn’t know he said, “we sang it at Tyler’s church”.  I looked it up for him and he carried that book around trying to sing it so I helped and we sang it together.  I told him that was a great song, that was the spirit you were feeling when you heard it, He said “No I just like it that’s all”.  He is going to be an incredible boy, but Boy oh Boy is it an adventure, it is better than any James Bond movie.  Thanks Heath for the adventure, the laughs and love.  Happy Birthday!